Wedding is a Divine Blessing....!!!

Dear readers,

Today I read a news in Maalai Malar i.e. dated 24.6.2010 (http://www.maalaimalar.com/2010/06/24112910/fifty-five-thousands-diverse-c.html). It says, in India, more than 55,000 couples have filed divorce petition and they are waiting for judgment. For some, it is a news. But I do not take it merely a News, rather, I started to think it over as to what made them to apply for divorce. The news further goes on that it takes at least 3 to 4 years for a couple to get divorced. In some cases the time exceeds more than 4 years. Hence, the Government is considering to make amendments in Hindu Marriage Act 1955 in view of making the Law simple for the petitioners to get speedy judgment. Neither the Government nor the Court wants to impose stringent Laws that could help the petitioners to find out their own solution and settling the conflicts without going to a Court. All they want is speedy disposals and there is no room for Humanity as far as the Law is concerned. Already the Court has passed on an Order in Kushboo's case that pri-marital sex is not an offense and an adult man and an adult woman can stay together, if they wish. It is none of anyone's business. In other words, if they are willing they can stay together without the need of Marriage and they can have conjugal relationship between them.

In India, the parents spend their hard-earned money from 5 to 10 lakhs for the wedding of their children and some are taking loan from the available sources at higher interest rate, just to fulfill their commitment. The petitioners for divorce have so many reasons for applying divorce but they don't think about the rest. Some are applying for divorce even after 10 years and have children. They don't mind the welfare of the children. There are no concrete grounds for them to go for divorce but just a little bit of disagreement is enough.

There is no issue in this world that could be hard to find solutions. The Government should plan to set up a counseling body in every district head quarter under the supervision of any reputable person/s and give the petitioners a chance to reconsider their decision. The Courts should take up the case for divorce only under the recommendations of this committee. Doing so will help the couples to lead a happy life forgetting the silly mistakes.

I request marrieds to stay united till the very end of your life and help those who are in need of guidance. Above all talk to one another and find out ways to solve any problem instead of blaming each other. According to the way you were brought up, give first place to God in your life Who is the Master of Universe. Its according to the plan of God you two have been chosen together and married. No man has ever decided it. Particularly for Hindus, there are ample lessons for them to learn from the lives of their ancestors and Epics like Ramayana. There are people to help them out in times of troubles if the couples are ready to speak out.

Here in this blog I have republished one or two articles analyzing the reasons for couples applying for divorce. However such statistics will not be going to help anyway but at least one can understand the menace of "divorce" culture.

Umashankar. K